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Parang itong meaning ng question sa tagalog.
Sabihin mo ang isang nararanasan mo sa nakaraan, na kailangan mo gamitin ang "sarili mong dahilan" pero maging "fair" ka parin para sa ibang tao.
For example, I don't really like people who smokes in front of me because I know second hand smoking is also bad. I know that these people needs to smoke because if they don't, they will feel terrible, they can even get sick. I can't just simply tell them to stop smoking. I would tell them that if they want to smoke, they can go to a designated location away from the crow when they are smoking. This is treating them fairly because I am not in their shoes to understand how bad they would feel if they just simply stop smoking. I will tell them to reduce smoking over time as a friendly advice. I motivate them by reminding them that there are people in the past that successfully stopped smoking.